This dynamic duo was recovering out loud before it was a hashtag. Books, television, comedy, live performance, video…podcasting—These two have been blazing the trail for modern recovery media.
They're the reigning Queens of Clean, the AfterParty Pair, the Twelve-Step Twins, The Detox Duo, Las Reinas de Recovery, the…ah, fu*k it…Gentleladies and Men…Anna and Danielle.
The principal motivation for my creativity.
Anna: I don’t know any other way to live.
Dani: Expressing myself and my strong opinions. Getting to know myself and my capabilities better.
The principal motivation for my sobriety.
Anna: I don’t have a fighting chance for happiness without it.
Dani: Liking and respecting myself sober. Not liking or respecting the person I was. The opportunity to grow and change in adulthood.
My favorite qualities in a person.
Anna: Humor. Intelligence. Fun. Bravery. Confidence. Honesty. Courage
Dani: Honesty, self-awareness, kindness, generosity, loyalty and having a sense of humor.
What I appreciate most about my friends.
Anna: See above.
Dani: Relating to each other. Being a good listener. Not taking things personally.
My main fault.
Anna: Impatient. Irritable. Left unchecked, driven by 100 forms of fear.
Dani: Not knowing how to set certain boundaries. Thinking that the world should be fair. Be easily annoyed by bullshit.
My favorite occupation.
Anna: The one I have.
Dani: What I do now—writing about addiction and recovery. I love my job.
My dream of happiness.
Anna: Gratitude for everything in my life without having to work so hard to have it.
Dani: Security—both emotinally and financially. Having a job that I love, a husband that I love and a home that I love. Spending as much time as possible with my dog, Benson.
My idea of misery.
Anna: Cocaine at 5 am. Birds chirping. Neighbors going to work. Ambien not working.
Dani: Having to wake up early every day and go to an job that I hate. Not making enough money. Having to eat fast food.
My greatest regret.
Anna: Not getting my adult life started earlier
Dani: There are a lot of painful things in my past but I can’t say I regret any of them because they brought me to where I am now. I suppose I wish my emotional recovery in sobriety had been quicker and I could have spared myself a lot of pain but that wasn’t really up to me. As my sponsor says, time take time.
My proudest moment.
Anna: The day I got the call from an investor about buying AfterParty.
Dani: There are two. The first was finding myself in a combative situation and not reacting. Truly understanding that what was happening wasn’tabout me. That was huge. I attribute it to six month of EMDR. The other was hosting the AVN Awards last year. It was the most fun I had a stand-up comedian and it felt like a dream come true.
Other than myself, who would I like to be?
Anna: Arianna Huffington wouldn’t be bad. Or just that person who has gratitude for her life without having to work so hard to have it.
Dani: Tina Fey. Not because I think she is talented but because she seems to effortless command respect and have a very high opinion of herself. While I don’t enjoy her work, I really respect who she is and what she has managed to accomplish.
Where I would like to live.
Anna: LA, where I do live. But it would be nice to spend part of the year in New York and another part somewhere warm, like Hawaii or Spain.
Dani: In a beautiful 5-bedroom home in my current neighborhood in Los Angeles. I love it here but if I want my life and family to expand, I can’t stay in a one bedroom apartment forever.
My favorite color.
My favorite authors.
Anna: Martin Amis. Philip Roth. Edward St. Aubyn.
Dani: David Sedaris and, of course, Anna David. Though I know she is laughing right now because she always teases me that I haven’t read any of her books. But book reading isn’t my thing. I like funny essays and shorts stories and I have read lots of those by her. I love her voice and am able to connect to it the way I connect to Sedaris.
My favorite poets.
Dani: I fucking HATE poetry.
My favorite composers/musicians.
Anna: From Beyonce to Rufus Wainright with much in between.
My favorite creative people.
Dani: I am not into art much at all. But my favorite clothing designer is Veronica M. I buy most of my clothes from her.
Dani: David Seadris, my first therapist, Detective Olivia Benson (even though she is a Lieutenant now)
My favorite food and drink.
Anna: Peanut butter. Soda water with a dash of cranberry (and lime).
Dani: My boyfriend’s Caesar salad and a soy latte, not at the same time.
My drug of (lack of) choice when I was using.
Anna: Cocaine. Ambien. Alcohol. Cigarettes.
Dani: Jack Daniels.
What I hate most of all.
Anna: The fact that the human mind naturally looks for what’s wrong and not what’s right. Societal double standards. Halitosis.
The natural talent I'd like to be gifted with.
Anna: The ability to memorize things instantly and remember it all.
How I want to die.
Anna: In my sleep.
Dani: In my sleep.
My present state of mind.
Dani: Calm and grateful.
Faults for which I have the most indulgence.
Anna: If you’re charming and funny, I’ll indulge pretty much any fault you have.
My favorite motto.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
My ego is not my amigo.
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